Matches made over the Internet often do not last long because people end up
choosing unsuitable
partners
and forming emotional bonds before meeting face-to-face, an Australian
university researcher
has
found.
Women may especially find Mr. Wrong, as they tend to be attracted by fine
comments or clever
emails,
said psychologist Matthew Bambling from the Queensland University of
Technology.
“You can never assume things are the way they seem online,” Bambling said. “The
fact that they
can
write a clever comment or a witty email doesn’t mean they will be Mr. Right,
that’s for sure,” he
said,
adding some men use the concept of “netting”, sending emails to dozens of women
and hoping
one
might respond. Bambling said you can find a partner online, but warned those
using the Web to
find
love to be aware of the traps. “There’s definitely an uncontrolled effect
online,” he said, with
people
more likely to exaggerate their good points while hiding anything negative.
“Few guys for
example
would say ‘look, I’m a middle aged alcoholic who’s been married five times,
pick me’.
They’re
going to present themselves as a good catch.” He said it was easy for people to
quickly invest
too
much emotionally in an online relationship because they don’t see the full
picture of the person
they
are emailing.
Bambling said people can avoid many of the problems by meeting early in the
actual relationship,
rather
than by getting to know each other only by email. He suggests couples arrange
to meet over
coffee
after a few emails, which will help people from building up a fantasy image of
their match.
“The
main thing to remember is to make real life contact as soon as possible if you
are interested in
someone,
because then you will know contact as soon as possible if you are interested in
someone,
because
then you will know if a relationship is a possibility.” He said.
1.
Why were women quite likely to find Mr. Wrong over the Internet?
A. Because they often judge a person by his appearance.
B. Because single women usually felt more lonely.
C. Because the emotional bonds were hard to break.
D. Because they were easily attracted by fine comments.
2.
About the online relationship Bambling suggests we should be ______.
A. rejective B. favorable C.
cautious D. hopeful
3.
The underlined word “exaggerate” in Paragraph 3 probably means “______”.
A. enlarge B.
invent C.
remove D. cover
4.
What is suggested by Bambling for a better online relationship?
A. Writing clever comments or emails to girls frequently.
B. Finding a partner online through one night respond.
C. Making real life contact before further development.
D. Investing much emotion in your partner.